Nov. 11, 2023

A Youth Hockey Parent's Guide to Establishing Accountability with Equipment and Routines

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Season 1 Our Kids Play Hockey

Ever felt overwhelmed by the chaos of your child's hockey experience? Do you wonder if there's a better way to manage all those bits of equipment, schedules, and laundry? We've got you covered. In this episode, we delve deep into establishing routines and fostering accountability in young hockey players. We discuss everything from packing gear to choosing the right jersey color, aiming to take some pressure off parents and empower kids.

We also share our insights on the best practices for teaching your child how to manage their own gear, highlighting the importance of checklists and clear instructions. In addition, we discuss the right age to start instilling these responsibilities, and how this can benefit children at all levels of play. Get ready to discover the secrets to effective hockey equipment management and the life lessons it can impart, such as time management and accountability.

Finally, we explore the significance of a solid game and practice routine, and the potential pitfalls of not having them in place. Whether you're a hockey mom or dad, coach, or player, you'll find invaluable advice in this episode. From encouraging your child to take charge of their gear to teaching them how to balance their time, we provide strategies to help them thrive on and off the ice. 

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00:51 - Establishing Hockey Routines for Kids

10:12 - Checklists and Bags for Kids' Sports

15:20 - Youth Hockey Equipment Management With Accountability

26:42 - Teaching Kids Laundry and Time Management

37:13 - Importance of Routines in Youth Hockey

45:02 - Accountability and Routines in Youth Hockey

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Hello hockey friends and families around the world, and welcome to another edition of our Kids Play Hockey.

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This is a great one.

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Today we had a submission an audio submission that we're going to play for you right at the beginning of the episode, from our friend Meg, who has a great question about when is the right time to establish a routine with your kids.

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So this is a listener based episode we want to let all of you know.

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You can submit topics like this to written, or we prefer audio like this by emailing us at team at ourkidsplayhockeycom, or head over to our Facebook page Our Kids Play Hockey and we'll be sure to like look at them there as well.

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So, without further ado, let's get you into the show of our kids play hockey.

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Hey, Leigh, I was curious if you all could talk about hockey routines for practice and games and how, at a young age, at the might and squirt level.

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Sometimes, if not all of the times, the responsibility of preparation falls on the parents.

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And when is it an appropriate age to start giving some of that responsibility to the kid?

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Things like do you have all of the jerseys that are needed and do you know what color you're supposed to be wearing?

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Do you have everything in your bag and is it clean?

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Do you have everything you need for practice?

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What time do you have to be at practice?

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Do you have your water bottles?

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Small things like that.

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That are topics that parents are usually running through their brain on a pretty regular basis to make sure their child is prepared.

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But when do we give that over to the kid to say, OK, you're going to start taking responsibility for some of these things?

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It is very clear that hockey players at an older age have an incredible work, ethic and respect for the people that they are working with.

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I see it in the way that they operate in the professional world in their communities, and I'd love to know at what age that starts.

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When do you start taking the responsibility off yourself as a parent and start to give it to your player.

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So that's a great question and I think we'd love to talk about, because it happens at every different level of our game right when the first day we get to the rink to the last day, our kids carry their bags in and leave the game of hockey.

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I'm going to start with this First off, matt.

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Great question.

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Mike, I've gone through seven water bottles this year.

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Somehow we lost a jersey that we played in that game.

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I'm hoping that's going to turn up in someone's bag.

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The daily grind of getting them to take their gear out of the bag to dry off or get it in the bag to get ready to go, the fight that happens every time.

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I say it's time to go not every time, but a lot of times it's the time to go and just having them have to transition out.

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Mike, I think I'm reaching the breaking point with it.

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When I started doing this journey, what I did was I walked them through it, like I showed them how to take it out.

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I really kind of pushed them almost to take it out.

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Then it kind of got to a point where it was more trouble than it was worth for me keeping them younger at this age.

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I started doing it myself a little bit just because I didn't want to have the argument.

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We all get there as parents sometimes.

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Now I've reached the breaking point where I've kind of had enough.

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I've gotten mentally to the point of and this is a funny one, mike, because I think you told me this was going to happen of, hey, if you forget something, you forgot something, I'm not changing it.

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I'm going to remind everybody listening One of my players is a goalie.

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If he forgets something, the whole team gets let down.

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And again with my daughter, I think she's learning from him a bit.

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But their ability to lose stuff is a frustration that I know a lot of you listening have.

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I am going to share some of the things I've done that have worked, but can we just take a moment for all the hockey parents out there and all the water bottles and socks and jerseys and elbow pads and left the gloves that have been lost to the game of hockey over the years?

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Mike.

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I would not always say that I fall from the category of.

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You've got to be responsible for your equipment and you need to make sure that your bag is packed and unpacked and all the different things you need.

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As your kids get older too, it gets even more complex.

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It gets to be like okay, what pregame meal are you bringing?

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What postgame meal do you need to have?

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What kind of protein shake do you want to have?

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What kind of snacks do you want to have?

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Because we're not stopping a Taco Bell or Chipotle after practice at 11.30 at night.

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The only thing I can say is routines are really so important in this aspect.

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We think what the question really came about is when should we start enforcing those routines?

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That being said, I just recently went to a tournament and had a humbly text.

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My wife that there might be something at the house that she might have to bring up with her because I forgot of my overnight bag, yelling at my son to remember his overnight bag, and then I'll get the.

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Well, how old are you text, if you're old enough to play.

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I used to say this about the kids If you're old enough to play, you're old enough to be responsible for some of the things you play with, Like if you forget your stick in the rink or you forget your water bottle on the bench think about a stick.

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You leave a stick in the rink.

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It's a $200 investment.

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$250 for most people.

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That's a lot of money.

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Water bottles are $8 a piece.

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I mean it's not cheap.

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It's not like it's a free paper cup.

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So it all depends on.

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I think to me certainly, age is.

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We could talk about this in the segments of age and what responsibilities players should have.

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But ultimately a lot of it is about routine.

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It's about just like our regular routine, right, getting ready for school in the morning, getting ready for hockey and leaving the hockey rink.

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I can't tell you as a coach, so one of these I do as a coach, good or bad, or enabling or not, I am the last person that leaves the rink and I go in the locker room.

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That's the time I'm cleaning it up, picking up the tape and whatever.

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You know the.

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My new favorite is the cut ends of the tape stick from now.

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The kids you know taping the toe of the blade and now they cut the ends off and the ends just lay there on the ground.

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So that's my new.

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You know that's.

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Those are hard to pick up, so we throw those.

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Those get thrown away.

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Lockroom is spotless when we leave and there's no doubt in my mind.

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I leave you know on the group text like who sneakers are these?

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Whose t-shirt is this?

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Whose stick is this?

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We get those too.

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Left the mouth guard.

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These are 16 year old men, so you know, I mean, I think it's, it's.

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It all depends on you know, and a lot of me says, well, if you allow it to continue to happen and you enable this, then of course it's going to keep happening, right, but I don't know what, a, what?

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A seven year old, I don't know.

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I think there needs to be a lot.

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I think there needs to be a lot of teaching and handholding and, and you know, there's, there's a lot of, there's a lot of I don't know what you call it, like the functioning of their brain, that that isn't to do some of that.

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Like you said, let's kind of break this down, cause I think I have my answer to this.

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I mean, I'm mega-looted to it and once you get to kind of the Bannum Midget and Up ages, it's on them.

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They, they should absolutely want to do it Right, cause there is a point, there's like a breaking point, where you're so involved in the game that it becomes personal how your routine is.

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And again, we should also say this, mike look, there is a big difference between hey, I forgot something which happens once in a while, and every week I'm forgetting the same thing.

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All right, so, like you know, I can forgive.

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Hey, I've, dad, I left my glove, my kid's 18, I left my glove at home.

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I never do that.

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It just it was a freak thing that that that can happen.

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All right, happens to all of us, as you just said.

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Now, again, if there's no responsibility or accountability on the kid and they keep forgetting to put something on or bring something in, which is what I'm dealing with right now, that's where the let's just say that the teapot starts to boil.

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All right, so this is what I've found.

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And then, mike, you know, I kind of want you to continue this because, again, I'm only hitting the, the squirt age here.

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But my attitude, I found, is this when, when the kids are Adams or mites, it's on me to teach them this is what you need to bring, all right, because they don't really know for a little bit.

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Right, eventually they do, but it's like okay, do you have your skates, do you have your shingards, do you have?

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Like?

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You have to kind of walk through that checklist with them.

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I said in a previous episode, something that really worked for us was I had my son and daughter actually create their own checklists, so they had the accountability of that, and that really really helped.

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Right, I didn't tell them after a while.

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I was like what do you need to bring to the game Now?

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Again, when my daughter was six or just turned seven, she didn't know that the first 20 times she was on the ice she was brand new, but now she does.

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So when she had the accountability, I had her make a list and now they check that list when they pack their bags, keeping in mind too, like sometimes the schedule doesn't allow for them to pack their bags and we might get home late one night.

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They have it.

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The next day they get to get to school.

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So I don't I don't mind packing their bag in that scenario.

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It helps my wife out, you know, it helps with the travel.

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So I think Adam's and might is an educational time, but I think it's very important to the listeners, in my opinion, mike, before we go on a squirt, that you at least explain to the kids.

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They need to know what's supposed to be in the bag, maybe what's not supposed to be in the bag, what needs to come out of the bag, and then the routine of you need to air your equipment out, okay, and then you need to put it back Right.

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I think that's a good stepping stone, but I don't think at the might level, after having gone through it now, it's a fully accountable time period for the kids.

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Yet that's just my opinion, but it better be darn close.

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Yeah, well, it's the head, shoulders, knees and toes game, right, I think, if you can do that, it's your five year old, right?

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And I did this with my kids and I've actually you know, I know I sound a little crazy here but I used to do this with our eight you kids and this was like a seminar for the parents and the kids together up in the lobby, like, okay, we're going to have this is our game, we're going to, we're going to get dressed and undressed, and as you get undressed, you're going to be thinking of being dressed, right?

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So if you have a routine listen, if you, if your routine is you come home and you dump your bag in the garage and then you go to bed.

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Most likely, like, here's my issue with that is that when you go home and you have an organized area and you put your stuff in that organized area, you immediately know you've left your elbow pad at the rink.

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And then you text the group chat hey, who has my son's elbow pad?

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He was sitting next to Johnny, and then Johnny says I have three elbow pads, you know.

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And then the mom says oh well, you have my, you have my retainer or you have, you know, you have, you know you've got my son's jersey, like that's where this technology is great, right.

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It really is, but if you wait until you go to your next game to determine that you left your glove at the rink.

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It's gone.

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You're in trouble.

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Now again, you know, even if you learn the play level, we tell you know, every learned to play kid gets the same email from me anytime they sign up.

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And it's that label, label, label.

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Everything has your name on your equipment.

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Everybody hears that, listening right Like cause.

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I didn't mention that.

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You're right.

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Label everything, everything.

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Again and I think it's just like inside the helmet.

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You know, put this just little, you know label labels, labels, or I'm a, you know, I don't know who.

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They're great, but whoever you go to get a late, get labels out there and label everything.

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So it's easier for us as coaches and rink personnel.

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Listen, I could tell you this if a rink personnel finds a glove and it says Dylan on it and you know with their last name, they're going to get that glove back.

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If it's just sitting there, it's going in the lost and found.

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Yeah or the trash.

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I've seen that have you been into a rink?

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Yeah, the lost and found.

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I don't know what that is sometimes, but I think this is so the cesspool of disease, mike, that's what it is.

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The very beginner level.

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The very beginner level, if you enable the ability, if you put your own Apple Air tag, you know in, you know with your tag, you know you put, you put some way in there to get that equipment back for somebody, you're going to get it back People just don't throw things out with people's names on it.

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If you just leave a glove, the right glove, and it's gone, now you're buying and again, at this age these are brand new pieces of equipment.

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This is not if I lose my right glove, it's from 1978.

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Right, I mean it's like, oh, thank God, he lost that glove Now again, but for these kids these are brand new pieces of equipment.

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Yeah, there's no reason to lose anything Now again.

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Like you said, if you forget something.

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Like you know, what I try to do with my kids is I try to get them in a place where you know when you take your stuff off, you know now what you don't have.

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Right, it's a good point, and then you're packing it, and you pack it as you get dressed.

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So if you let's go into the actionable items of what you're talking about no, because you're making really great points, so like things for the parents listening Cause, again, I just assume things sometimes that I don't realize, like that's just really good advice.

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So the first thing you said, mike, is that mentally, your kids should know how to get dressed and that's how you should pack your bag right.

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So like when, mike, this is how my kids did okay, I need my undergarments first, my Jack, my Jill, my duster armor, whatever I'm using.

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Okay.

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Then it's like okay, what do you get next?

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Okay, my shin guards know next, and then my socks and my pants, and you make a song.

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You're just like kids used to learn how to do all the states right, yeah, pack your bag, like you get dressed right and you can make a song.

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There's a lot of different things you can do, but just imagine yourself getting dressed.

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Okay, what do you do?

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I'll put my shin guards on.

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I'll put my socks on, then I put my whatever freezers on.

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Well, and the other thing was in unpacking.

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You're right, I forget.

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You know, people do just open the bag or dump it.

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Right, there should be a in my opinion, a place for everything.

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Right, your skates go here, your shins go here, your pants go here.

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Double check when you open your bag.

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Your jerseys get hung up.

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Don't leave them in the bag.

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It's disgusting, all right, and it's like.

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So you know.

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Like you said, you know right away, hey, I'm missing something.

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All right, that's part of accountability too.

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And like we're in a good place here with our coaching staffs, with my kids, like they do wait until everybody's out and check the locker room.

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I do that too.

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I'll just say, you know, like, okay, there was.

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You can tell the parents there was nothing in the locker room.

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It's just somebody has it right and the parents are pretty aware of that.

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But like I think that's the first actionable item is, make sure your kids know how to get dressed mentally, make sure they pack their bag that way and then make sure everything has a place.

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Now again, this one's kind of optional, what I'm about to say when I pack my own bag, my skates have a very specific spot.

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You know, my elbow is my show.

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Everything has a spot in the bag and it's not one of those organized bag.

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I just that's how I know where things go, because it's part of my routine.

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Now again, when you're seven, things just get thrown in the bag and I get that.

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But it's a process, right?

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And I think that in the kind of you mind is starting to develop the process and asking those questions Okay, did you check everything?

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When you can?

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Okay, cause it's incredible.

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And it's hard.

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It's hardly right.

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If you play lacrosse, like okay, everybody on this, everybody that listens to this, that plays lacrosse, knows you take your lacrosse stick, you throw your helmet on it, the gloves go on the stick and the shoulder pads go over that and the jersey goes over that.

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You go home Like so everything is on a stick.

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Like it's like you literally walk out and if you're a baseball player, your batting helmet goes on the glove, your batting gloves are in their helmet and your mitt goes over the bat.

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It's like so it's easy, but in hockey it's this bottomless pit of a bag.

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Well, I'll take it a step further, mike.

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It's like when I walk in the locker room and there's a yard sale going on cause my kid's equipment's all over everywhere, but the bag, I want to lose my mind.

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I'm like it's just not hard.

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Oh my God, I'm just like you can't.

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Not only that, can you just put your gloves here, your helmet here, you go to it?

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You go to it and I think the caller was alluding to like you look like in a professional locker room or a junior locker room.

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I mean, there are coaches that are so crazy.

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Like behind you, like it's like the helmet, the gloves, the shin guards, the elbow pads, everything's like if I go into your stall it looks like that guy's stall and that guy's stall.

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You know who loves that Military ass Trainers, you know cause equipment trainers the trainers do that yeah.

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Yeah, because they're like okay, I know every by looking at the snapshot of this person's locker.

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They have everything they need Right.

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And I think at the youngest levels, for our own sanity as parents, we can help our kids understand that if you're, if you're going into a locker room and dumping your bag out to get dressed, that to me is so anxiety provoking that I'm like yeah.

00:17:27.595 --> 00:17:28.136
On the same way.

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You can reach into your bag and just get what you need.

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Well, let's take it a step further now.

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Okay, so would you agree with me that, Adams and Mites, it's really more about now educating and getting them in a position to do this right?

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Like I've learned that it's very hard for them to do this on their own.

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Some kids do, some kids don't.

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I don't know they get dressed on their own Like I've seen kids somewhere hockey school at seven years old get dropped off at the gym.

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Well, my daughter, she gets dressed on her own.

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I mean, she needs help with her skates, but she can get dressed on her own.

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Again, it depends on the kid.

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But the point I'm making is this, just to answer Meg's question right, is that?

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I think Adams and Mites, you should not be fully ready yet for them to have that accountability.

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You need to be teaching them how to be accountable.

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Again, I'm not saying do everything for them.

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I'm saying you need to be educating them on how to do this Now.

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This leads me to the next thing.

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Now, and this is gonna be my answer, I believe Squirt 10 U.

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That is the time they need to start taking their own responsibility.

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And I'm gonna be very honest with everybody out there.

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You remember when your kids were getting out of diapers and you had to go through that week of hell or just have them walk around naked for a week and it was just a pain in the butt, and then they just suddenly get it.

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It's the whole first year of Squirt that you're gonna go through the similar process, but you just gotta do it.

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Let me tell you what I've been doing here.

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That's working right.

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Like I said, I always like to give the audience the things I'm doing that are working.

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I think you'll have some too.

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First off, the coaching staff has been great about no, no parents in the locker room.

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Kids, you're responsible for getting dressed on your own.

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So that already added an aura of okay, wow, this is getting a little serious to the kids now, right, like, my mom and dad can't come in, so it's on me, right?

00:19:03.049 --> 00:19:04.730
If I miss something, the coach is yelling at me.

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Now, that's not my parents or anything like that.

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So I noticed early on my son was starting to forget some things.

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So this is what I did, mike, and I'm telling you it's working.

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One of the problems with helping too much is that the kids starts to take for granted what you're doing and they don't see the value in what a lost love costs.

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So, 10, you kids have some money, most likely right, or they understand what money is right.

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They understand my kid loses a water bottle.

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They get charged for that water bottle.

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Now, and I'll tell you what when I started doing that water bottles are not getting lost anymore my kid forgot a socks.

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That's 50 bucks.

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What 50 bucks?

00:19:44.852 --> 00:19:46.410
Yeah, it's 50 bucks.

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Give it to me, or whatever you wanna charge them.

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Things are not getting lost in the bag as much anymore, mike.

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Now, with that said, somehow we lost a home jersey.

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Now it's not lost.

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It's obviously in someone else's bag because it wasn't in the locker room after the game.

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But we're starting to institute.

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No, you will pay for this.

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Now you are responsible for your gear and to make sure it's in the bag, and if you continue to be laxadaisical about this, mom and dad are gonna be made whole on all the money that we've been spending.

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So I have found that to work.

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I also have found explaining because, again, this is also the big mistake you gotta explain the why, right, and as a goal tender, I found that's a unique position to be in as a parent, because if he forgets something, it could be really catastrophic for the whole team.

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All right, like a player forgets a glove, that's something you can find something right.

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If he forgets something he needs to play goalie and he can't get in that, you have a major problem.

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So I've been able to explain to him and as you should do with all the players' parents that look, there's a responsibility here that you can't let your team down.

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All right, and that's why it's important that you take the time to make sure you have all your pads, son, right.

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And again, you can do this with any position being a goalie.

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I just think there's a little more emphasis on it.

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It makes it easier for me is what I'm trying to say.

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But my answer, meg, to your question is squirt, they gotta take over, but it's hard, all right, and they're gonna forget stuff and there's gonna be maybe some crying or whining or yelling, but it's like the diaper thing, like you just gotta do it.

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They'll figure it out, because on the other end of this mic and I do know this from playing when they do get it, then they really take over and then they actually don't want you to be involved, right, so I think, squirt is the age.

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That's my answer.

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Squirt is when you kids need to start taking the responsibility.

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Yeah, and be strategic about it, like you can proactively teach those lessons right.

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So if you know your kid, you know you leave right and you see the glove in the corner of the garage Like, okay, today's the day I'm gonna teach the lesson.

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Not when you're on a plane, not when you're getting on the plane right, because you're probably like, that's probably not the best day for me to teach this lesson.

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You know, staying at the Hilton for the weekend with my kid who can't play because they don't have equipment, like.

00:22:05.410 --> 00:22:05.811
So it's like.

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But be proactive in teaching that.

00:22:07.979 --> 00:22:09.174
It's almost like you know it's the same thing.

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Like you know, your kids are learning how to ride a bike and you know they're gonna fall, but you know what they're kind of in an area where, when they fall, they're really not gonna get hurt.

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They're gonna fall, they're gonna cry a little bit, they're gonna get scraped up, but they're not gonna break their neck.

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I mean, it's like, okay, they're like, I'm not putting them in a like okay, well, you know, I'm gonna teach them how to ride a bike today in traffic.

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I think this is gonna be the time, but I think this is so on 995 and figure it out.

00:22:32.810 --> 00:22:33.634
Yeah, you'll figure it out.

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You gotta toughen up, kid, I mean.

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But I think in this scenario, like just a little thing of equipment, like the little pain of saying, well, you've caused yourself pain, you've caused your teammates pain, you've caused your coaching staff pain, and it was only because you just didn't have that checklist.

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Now I understand that executive functioning sometimes is very, you know, hard for children and adults or anybody, and so having that checklist, like I know, like me and my kids, hate it, there's no doubt about it.

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But I get in the car I'm like, okay, my 10 year old, I'm going over the checklist.

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You got this, yes, you got this.

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Yes, you got this.

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Yes, you got this, yes, okay, but I know you don't have that because I see it.

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Solid yeah.

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So to me it's just like sitting there going okay, now, if you can capture them, then that's like the warning for me warning one, warning two, and I like the I liked that you're saying that because there should be a few warnings.

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I don't think you gotta be so Well just or teaching moments.

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Right, it's a time to say that's great questions.

00:23:33.704 --> 00:23:35.492
Yeah, that's a great question Today's gonna be a day.

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we have plenty of time.

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Let's go through the routine again.

00:23:38.721 --> 00:23:43.454
Let's go through the routine again, let's go through the routine again, and I think it's just and again.

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If you're doing that at 17, then maybe the routine's not working.

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You've got other problems if it's 17.

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Right, but again.

00:23:50.053 --> 00:23:53.778
but again there's a lot of but to your point, there's so much stuff going on.

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Sometimes I know even listen, even with my older son there'll be plenty of times we get home from practice at like 1130 at night and I'm like, listen, I'll take care of the bag.

00:24:01.494 --> 00:24:04.153
That's what I do, yeah, and this is a young man.

00:24:04.670 --> 00:24:07.637
This is a young man, right, but you think about it at a pro level.

00:24:07.637 --> 00:24:09.698
Those guys aren't unpacking their bag, they're in bag.

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Look, I don't mind helping my kids.

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I don't mind that.

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I don't need to be strict on it.

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I don't think that's enabling anybody I think that's helping.

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No, if you're helping.

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But here's the thing I make sure that they know I'm doing it, like I've said, and to give my kids credit, I'll say, hey, listen, it's late, I'm gonna unpack your bag and I am expecting a hey, thanks, dad.

00:24:26.417 --> 00:24:27.593
All right, not, not.

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Not cause I need it, it's cause that's the right thing to do when someone helps you.

00:24:30.291 --> 00:24:35.917
The other thing, too, is we're gonna reiterate this point Checklist, checklist, checklist, create a checklist.

00:24:35.917 --> 00:24:41.155
The other fun part about this routine, mike, is that it really gives you perspective into your own parents when we were kids.

00:24:41.155 --> 00:24:47.398
And it's one of those moments where you're like, ah, yeah, you were right about that, sorry, but you gotta teach them right.

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And the other thing, too, is, like you said, I think it's also about asking questions.

00:24:51.337 --> 00:24:54.178
So make sure A parents, your kids, have a checklist.

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Create that with them, Let them tell you the checklist, help them do it, give them accountability.

00:24:58.634 --> 00:25:00.415
Two, mike said a great example.

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You see it in the corner that the gloves, not in the back.

00:25:02.457 --> 00:25:09.255
All right, ask the great question hey, did you double check your equipment, are you sure?

00:25:09.255 --> 00:25:14.374
You know, like I said, there's a time and a place to teach them this, right.

00:25:14.374 --> 00:25:15.277
I'm gonna say this.

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I escalated mine to if you're missing something or you lose something, you're paying for it.

00:25:19.757 --> 00:25:22.438
I have no problem putting that kind of accountability on my kids.

00:25:22.438 --> 00:25:33.036
I have no problem with my kids understanding that things are earned and that mom and dad earn money and pay for this for you, because it's a privilege to play, but you need to earn these things too.

00:25:33.036 --> 00:25:34.153
I have no problem with that.

00:25:34.153 --> 00:25:43.115
But my answer is Meg, squirt Squirt is when it needs to be on the kids or that transition needs to be made final by the time my kid moves on to PEWI.

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I do not wanna be in a position where I'm having to tell them that Now.

00:25:46.210 --> 00:25:48.439
Listen, mike and I have been talking about equipment a lot.

00:25:48.439 --> 00:25:54.837
Meg also brought up some other things that we need to talk about here, including things like is your equipment clean?

00:25:54.837 --> 00:25:57.916
All right, parents, everyone listen to me.

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Your seven and eight year old and up, they can do laundry.

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You might not think they can do it, but I can guarantee you your kids can take dirty clothes, put them in the washing machine.

00:26:09.275 --> 00:26:13.414
You might not want to let them use the soap, that's fine, but they can get it in there.

00:26:13.414 --> 00:26:15.296
You can start it and get this too.

00:26:15.296 --> 00:26:23.076
Parents, you can get them to get it out of the washing machine and put it in the dryer, all right, I'm trying to help you because I think I waited too long for that.

00:26:23.076 --> 00:26:24.234
I know they can do it.

00:26:24.234 --> 00:26:31.916
So part of your routine could be take your dirty under armor up to the washing machine, all right, or just do your laundry generally.

00:26:31.916 --> 00:26:33.695
So I just wanted to put that out there.

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I'm enabling all of you.

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If you're not already doing it, your kids can do laundry, believe me.

00:26:38.277 --> 00:26:39.099
Okay.

00:26:39.099 --> 00:26:43.972
And the other one sorry Mike, anything on that one real quick, before I move on, because there's a couple more.

00:26:43.972 --> 00:26:45.037
She said that I want to tap on.

00:26:45.589 --> 00:26:47.237
Yeah, no, I mean that would be hard for me.

00:26:47.237 --> 00:26:48.375
I mean that is hard.

00:26:48.375 --> 00:26:50.877
I mean I think I'm just going through the routine of the day.

00:26:50.958 --> 00:26:51.921
Right, Mike, they can do the laundry.

00:26:53.192 --> 00:26:58.837
Well, the problem is, if you have I don't even do my own laundry, but I should but if I don't delete that out, okay.

00:26:58.877 --> 00:27:00.352
I'm not doing it, Mrs Benelli.

00:27:00.352 --> 00:27:01.055
God bless you.

00:27:02.049 --> 00:27:04.238
So well, it's because I don't do it correctly.

00:27:04.238 --> 00:27:11.318
But I'm thinking like, if you're going to do, if you're gonna me, I'm just like, okay, everything goes in.

00:27:11.589 --> 00:27:12.634
Maybe we will cut that out.

00:27:12.634 --> 00:27:13.115
No, it's fine.

00:27:14.970 --> 00:27:20.154
So if you're thinking like if that's the case, and think about our kids practicing right, they're practicing like every day.

00:27:20.154 --> 00:27:20.830
I mean.

00:27:20.830 --> 00:27:26.496
So if that's the case, then you better, you know, just make sure you have maybe two sets of like listen, my family thinks I'm crazy.

00:27:26.496 --> 00:27:29.038
I'm like okay, you got set A, set B.

00:27:29.038 --> 00:27:33.836
Set A is in the wash, set B is in your bag, set B is in the wash, set A is in your bag.

00:27:33.836 --> 00:27:36.096
Like that to.

00:27:36.096 --> 00:27:37.855
A lot of people are like are you insane?

00:27:37.855 --> 00:27:38.391
Like this is the.

00:27:38.792 --> 00:27:41.140
I'm like no, I'm just trying to be efficient here, I'm efficient.

00:27:41.609 --> 00:27:43.377
I'm just trying to understand that again.

00:27:43.377 --> 00:27:51.035
I don't want the stress of hoping something's dry four minutes before practice, because the night before is when I need you to pack it, because after school is crazy.

00:27:51.035 --> 00:27:54.374
I'm picking you up, I gotta grab your bag, I gotta run into the car.

00:27:54.374 --> 00:28:01.016
There's like we're not in an institution where you just show up and everything's folded and dry on your locker room.

00:28:01.016 --> 00:28:02.180
You know it's the haul.

00:28:02.430 --> 00:28:04.797
You gotta earn that level of equipment training too.

00:28:05.157 --> 00:28:05.318
Right.

00:28:05.318 --> 00:28:06.101
So, but I agree with you.

00:28:06.101 --> 00:28:15.135
I mean again, again, depending on your situation at home and where you are with your kids and how many different kids you have, and you could probably do the kids could learn and do their own laundry, no doubt about it.

00:28:15.135 --> 00:28:18.092
I mean, in our place it's like the laundry room is.

00:28:18.092 --> 00:28:26.923
It could be a little crazy, but I think it's like a matter of if you can Like, if you could just get into a routine where the kids know okay, my equipment got hung up.

00:28:26.923 --> 00:28:28.770
Mom, here's my like.

00:28:28.770 --> 00:28:35.704
They sell these great laundry bags where you could throw everything in the bag for your kid and then that's gets washed and dried and then it stays in the bag.

00:28:35.704 --> 00:28:37.229
So it never leaves the bag right.

00:28:37.229 --> 00:28:39.695
So there's like to me, like that's our solution.

00:28:39.695 --> 00:28:41.411
I'm like here, just put the laundry bag in there.

00:28:41.411 --> 00:28:52.615
It gets washed, it gets clean, it goes back your neck, your, your, your neck guard jerseys and shirts in there, your pants are in there, your socks are in there, Everything's in your cup and supporter, everything's in that bag.

00:28:52.615 --> 00:28:55.305
It gets washed and dried and then you open it up and you have the bag.

00:28:55.305 --> 00:29:04.867
So that is one of the solutions, maybe, to this, but that's no reason why that piece Can at least make it.

00:29:05.388 --> 00:29:10.637
Yeah, at minimum, like you said, it should be wherever you do your laundry, right?

00:29:10.637 --> 00:29:19.442
And and parents, just word of the wise here, do not go weeks or months at a time without washing their under armor or their duster armor or their undergarments.

00:29:19.442 --> 00:29:28.218
Okay, it's disgusting, for lack of a better word, but like there's a lot of things to crawl out on, that armor wash, wash the under armor, whatever you do undergarments.

00:29:28.218 --> 00:29:29.589
Thank you, psa for me.

00:29:29.589 --> 00:29:32.369
So yeah, I wanted to enable you all with that.

00:29:32.369 --> 00:29:38.964
The other thing Meg brought up is I'm gonna put all these together Practice routine versus game routine and then the time of practice.

00:29:38.964 --> 00:29:45.679
I think a mistake I made early on that I've remedied is I would just kind of know when the practices are and go.

00:29:45.679 --> 00:29:46.608
Okay, it's time to go.

00:29:46.608 --> 00:29:50.395
Man, that was a mistake, right, because kids have a hard time transitioning.

00:29:50.395 --> 00:29:53.025
Now I'm like listen, your practice is at 515.

00:29:53.025 --> 00:29:55.835
My other kid, your practice is at 630.

00:29:55.835 --> 00:29:57.101
We need to leave at this time.

00:29:57.101 --> 00:29:58.025
What time is it now?

00:29:58.025 --> 00:30:00.834
It's this time, dad, good, what time do we need to leave?

00:30:00.834 --> 00:30:03.153
Okay, everything needs to be ready to go.

00:30:03.153 --> 00:30:05.546
I'm very, very on top of that now, and so are they.

00:30:05.546 --> 00:30:08.272
And, and Mike, I'm gonna show this to in another episode.

00:30:08.272 --> 00:30:17.151
But we have a big calendar, handwritten calendar, now at the house where all of the practices and all the times, because we have so many different things that we're doing with teams Right now we're there and they look at it.

00:30:17.151 --> 00:30:17.813
I give them credit.

00:30:17.813 --> 00:30:19.519
They look at it to see what's going on.

00:30:19.519 --> 00:30:24.375
It's color-coded, right, it's very organized and they know when and what they have going on.

00:30:24.375 --> 00:30:30.944
Keep me in mind too my son's a squirt, my daughter's a mite, but my daughter's obviously benefiting from my son being older now and she follows along.

00:30:30.944 --> 00:30:32.509
But that's a big thing.

00:30:32.509 --> 00:30:39.349
They know when there's the time of the practices are and they're starting to understand Is this a close one or a far one?

00:30:39.349 --> 00:30:45.275
Like this is five minutes from the house or 20 minutes or an hour, right and and again it's there's.

00:30:45.275 --> 00:30:47.684
It's a squirt thing with education, right.

00:30:47.684 --> 00:30:50.986
I can't expect my son to understand driving yet he's.

00:30:50.986 --> 00:30:53.833
He's nine, going on ten, but I can't expect them to understand.

00:30:53.833 --> 00:30:57.615
It takes time to go places, you need to be ready to go and it's working.

00:30:57.615 --> 00:31:01.450
A calendar is one of the the best, I think, things we've ever done.

00:31:01.450 --> 00:31:03.856
It has eliminated so much stress.

00:31:03.856 --> 00:31:06.551
And the other thing, too is I'm a digital guy, mike.

00:31:06.551 --> 00:31:10.972
So I do a lot on my phone and I again it's my own mistake or ignorance.

00:31:10.972 --> 00:31:12.155
It's like the kids can't see that.

00:31:12.155 --> 00:31:15.184
They don't see the phone right, so I put it up on the wall.

00:31:15.646 --> 00:31:18.704
Let him off your phone, but then you tell me need your phone all the time to know what the schedule is.

00:31:19.586 --> 00:31:23.525
Listen, you literally walk in my house and it's there, like every guest that walks in, like wow, what's that?

00:31:23.525 --> 00:31:26.228
I'm like that's the hockey calendar, right?

00:31:26.228 --> 00:31:27.231
Kids are proud of it.

00:31:27.291 --> 00:31:33.836
Oh, and if you've ever played pro hockey or college hockey or high, let you know junior hockey and you've been in the locker rooms that I have a countdown timer for the.

00:31:33.836 --> 00:31:35.347
You know From the ice getting done like usually.

00:31:35.347 --> 00:31:46.305
So when you get off, when you get off the ice and you go into a locker room, at certain levels of hockey they put the time up on the clock and the clock that's out in the ring is the clock that's in your locker room.

00:31:46.305 --> 00:31:49.234
So you start seeing the countdown, so the Zamboni's on the ice there's helpful.

00:31:49.234 --> 00:31:51.093
There's both, that's.

00:31:51.093 --> 00:31:53.545
I'm trying to get one of those put over our door every rink.

00:31:53.644 --> 00:31:54.568
I wish would have one of those.

00:31:54.568 --> 00:31:55.090
Honestly.

00:31:56.446 --> 00:31:57.049
I think I'm trying.

00:31:57.049 --> 00:31:59.825
I need one in the house, like so when you walk in my front door.

00:31:59.825 --> 00:32:02.414
I want that countdown clock to be like okay clock starting.

00:32:02.414 --> 00:32:04.121
Yeah, I have 63 minutes.

00:32:04.502 --> 00:32:07.453
Six to three minutes we have to be putting in the car and put on an iPad or something.

00:32:09.675 --> 00:32:13.137
Yeah, I'm like, I'm like, okay, it's, it's the practice at this time.

00:32:13.137 --> 00:32:14.365
Yeah, you're at this time.

00:32:14.365 --> 00:32:19.125
You have homework in this and you have to eat if it all is in, and here's the time frame we have to do it.

00:32:19.125 --> 00:32:21.556
So figure out where you want to do first.

00:32:21.556 --> 00:32:23.565
You want to pack your bag now and get it over with right.

00:32:23.565 --> 00:32:26.977
You want to eat your meal now you budget your time.

00:32:27.499 --> 00:32:29.244
That's what you're teaching them how to budget time.

00:32:29.244 --> 00:32:30.372
You know another one I did Mike.

00:32:30.372 --> 00:32:32.625
That surprisingly worked really well.

00:32:32.625 --> 00:32:38.730
So we, we have an Alexa at home, all right, you know, you know the voice, the thing you can talk to, and it talks back and everybody's got it.

00:32:38.730 --> 00:32:42.411
If you have Siri on your phone, hey, okay, google, we all have something like that right now.

00:32:42.411 --> 00:32:46.005
And I just kind of like I tried this and it really worked.

00:32:46.005 --> 00:32:51.384
But I set automatic alarms, like for school, like 10 minutes before school.

00:32:51.384 --> 00:32:58.067
Now it says you know, lee, 10 minutes until you need to leave to school, and the kids know what that means, right?

00:32:58.067 --> 00:33:00.756
So I found it like you know, let's use technology.

00:33:00.756 --> 00:33:07.015
You can tell it hey, listen at 510, say this right way of 10 minutes, we need to leave for our game.

00:33:07.015 --> 00:33:09.692
And man they, for every reason.

00:33:09.692 --> 00:33:16.692
You know Alexa's voice carries farther than mine in my household Because it's somebody else's voice, but that that became part of our routine too.

00:33:16.692 --> 00:33:19.018
So you can utilize the technology.

00:33:19.018 --> 00:33:22.555
But it is important to establish from a young age.

00:33:22.555 --> 00:33:26.935
Again, as they get older they'll do they might rush you out of the house when it, when you get older.

00:33:26.935 --> 00:33:27.707
I've seen that too.

00:33:27.707 --> 00:33:29.593
Mom, we got to go the games in four hours.

00:33:29.593 --> 00:33:35.077
We got to go, but at a young age establishing hey, it takes time to get places.

00:33:35.077 --> 00:33:37.285
Be, it will take you time to get dressed.

00:33:37.285 --> 00:33:39.704
I don't want to be there 20 minutes before the game.

00:33:39.704 --> 00:33:41.568
Again, it's squirted.

00:33:41.568 --> 00:33:43.051
We have to be there an hour before.

00:33:43.051 --> 00:33:45.979
So now it's like what time do we need to leave to be there an hour before?

00:33:45.979 --> 00:33:47.869
You should be asking me that.

00:33:47.869 --> 00:33:50.416
Right, just creating the right questions.

00:33:50.416 --> 00:33:52.873
All right, so again, continuing down the answer here.

00:33:53.045 --> 00:33:56.295
I like to have a conversation about being an hour before a squirking, but, but that's another.

00:33:57.465 --> 00:33:59.873
Maybe it is because I I it works for us.

00:34:00.114 --> 00:34:06.424
It works for us because they do, just from the point of view from this conversation right there we're having, like, when is the responsibility of the players, right?

00:34:06.424 --> 00:34:12.036
And I think one of the one of the pieces of the question was you know who's responsible for the kids like warming up?

00:34:12.036 --> 00:34:13.427
And yeah, what's that?

00:34:13.427 --> 00:34:14.490
What's that routine?

00:34:14.490 --> 00:34:21.306
Look like, right, that that's part of every hockey team's routine and I think a lot of us, like as a coach, you say, okay, kid, you're on.

00:34:21.306 --> 00:34:24.079
You know you have to be there an hour before, yeah, go do your routine.

00:34:24.079 --> 00:34:25.445
And then you look at some of these teams.

00:34:25.445 --> 00:34:26.952
You know, like, what the hell is that?

00:34:27.806 --> 00:34:31.556
Well, I'm proud to say that the the team that Logan's on right now is really great.

00:34:31.556 --> 00:34:33.027
They get there an hour before.

00:34:33.027 --> 00:34:38.628
They have 15 minutes to do what they need to do, and then it is a coach led team, warm up Right and it's in.

00:34:38.628 --> 00:34:41.824
You're in the locker room, maybe chalk talk, you get dressed, game time.

00:34:41.824 --> 00:34:46.635
So it's very regimen and I really appreciate that because the coaches have taken it upon themselves to help.

00:34:46.635 --> 00:34:54.257
And I'll tell you what you know when it's not mom or dad doing it, the kids take it way more seriously, which is not normal and natural, and I'm very thankful for that.

00:34:54.257 --> 00:35:00.565
And again, when you, when you rewind back in In the might level, it is my responsibility as a coach to make sure these kids understand.

00:35:00.565 --> 00:35:01.927
This is not Adams.

00:35:01.927 --> 00:35:08.577
You will listen when a coach speaks to you, you will get instruction, you will learn right, and that can be Really hard transition for some of these kids who it's just been.

00:35:08.577 --> 00:35:16.414
I've been skating around having fun, and it is always supposed to be fun, but there are some rules now, right, and that is okay for you to know that and learn that.

00:35:16.414 --> 00:35:18.487
So, keeping on this one, okay.

00:35:18.487 --> 00:35:21.896
The other question she asked was about practice routine from to game routine.

00:35:21.896 --> 00:35:24.855
My suggestion is it should not change at all.

00:35:24.855 --> 00:35:27.585
Your team for practice or game should always be the same.

00:35:27.585 --> 00:35:38.606
You know, there might be a little heightened awareness on a game day about not forgetting something for sure, but your routine should not be any difference on a practice day than a game day in terms of just Preparation.

00:35:38.606 --> 00:35:43.217
Now it might change in terms of I've got two games today, two different teams, two different practices.

00:35:43.217 --> 00:35:54.842
Again, one I have to deal with is if Logan is going from goalie to skater, which happens a few times a week, he's got to make sure certain gear from one bag gets to the other bag, right, he's actually been pretty good about that because it's not a ton.

00:35:54.842 --> 00:35:58.655
But, like you know, he wears he wears certain pads on both sides, right.

00:35:58.655 --> 00:36:00.489
So little things like that.

00:36:00.489 --> 00:36:03.797
But the routine doesn't change it, just making sure that they know.

00:36:03.797 --> 00:36:05.204
Here's what we're doing today.

00:36:05.204 --> 00:36:13.641
We kind of have a little mini meeting in the morning, even on school days, of hey, tonight, you know, alina, you have this, logan, you have this, or you both have this after this.

00:36:13.641 --> 00:36:14.605
Just so they know.

00:36:14.605 --> 00:36:16.010
You know what they're like.

00:36:16.010 --> 00:36:17.760
They're really receptive, they understand, like.

00:36:17.760 --> 00:36:23.974
They're not dumb, right, they understand what they need to do and what needs to go on and how we're gonna compartmentalize that.

00:36:23.974 --> 00:36:29.052
But from a practice routine to a game day routine, in terms of equipment, that should not change.

00:36:29.052 --> 00:36:32.083
Some players have food routines or things they have to eat on game days.

00:36:32.083 --> 00:36:35.876
That's a personal preference and again that happens when you get older.

00:36:35.876 --> 00:36:41.463
Again, parents of younger kids Make sure this is really on us as parents.

00:36:41.463 --> 00:36:46.601
In my opinion, you really got to prepare your meals right on a game day or a practice day.

00:36:46.601 --> 00:36:49.795
Make sure that they have snacks, healthy snacks.

00:36:49.795 --> 00:36:51.222
You know I can't stand it when a kid walks in with a donut.

00:36:51.222 --> 00:36:51.804
I'm like what are you doing?

00:36:51.804 --> 00:36:54.333
Right?

00:36:54.333 --> 00:36:57.284
I carrots are a great one, I mean, you know there's a lot of healthy snacks you can get that aren't hard.

00:36:57.284 --> 00:37:07.219
But making sure that you know they're not eating 10 seconds before they go on the ice, because then I got to bring a puke bucket out, right, because your kid didn't digest his food properly.

00:37:07.219 --> 00:37:08.965
Some of that's on us to teach them from a nutritional standpoint.

00:37:08.965 --> 00:37:14.603
But, yeah, don't forget to give your kid meals at the right time on a game day, I'm not seeing that.

00:37:14.603 --> 00:37:18.094
Or kids show up hungry, it's like it's problem.

00:37:18.094 --> 00:37:22.288
So that to me that's on the parents, till the kids have some understanding of that and knowing that.

00:37:22.288 --> 00:37:25.181
But practice routine, game routine should be the same, mike, my opinion.

00:37:27.231 --> 00:37:50.045
I'm baffled that Coaches, parents, players do not take the same thought and care in going to their practices which they do many more times in games, hopefully Right right and have much bigger chance of getting injured because the reps are so many.

00:37:50.045 --> 00:37:51.925
I mean, in the game you're getting, you know what are you getting?

00:37:51.925 --> 00:37:54.568
15 shifts in practice you're on the ice every minute.

00:37:54.568 --> 00:37:55.489
It's a fraction.

00:37:55.489 --> 00:37:56.684
I don't get it.

00:37:56.684 --> 00:37:57.844
I don't understand.

00:37:57.844 --> 00:38:00.326
I don't care if you're at the lowest level.

00:38:00.326 --> 00:38:05.606
The culture is a whole nother conversation, the culture of youth hockey.

00:38:05.606 --> 00:38:11.505
To show up five minutes before practice and jump on the ice and go practice is prevalent and it's there.

00:38:11.505 --> 00:38:13.327
I see it at every level, even elite players.

00:38:13.380 --> 00:38:13.985
It's insanity.

00:38:14.840 --> 00:38:15.664
Elite hockey.

00:38:15.664 --> 00:38:19.688
I get it, you show, but that, to me, is the most ludicrous thing.

00:38:19.688 --> 00:38:38.144
You can ask If you're paying, whatever you're paying to have a professional coaching staff with serious hockey players that don't understand that if practice starts at six it really starts at five and that you need to be able to go through a mental and physical routine If you want your best practice.

00:38:38.144 --> 00:38:40.226
You just like to perform in a game.

00:38:40.226 --> 00:38:47.280
If you don't perform in practice to a place where you're developing and getting better, then how are you gonna perform in a game to get better?

00:38:47.280 --> 00:38:50.505
Like that's practices where you get the opportunity to learn all these things.

00:38:50.505 --> 00:38:57.288
And I don't know why coaches don't enforce the fact that you know my practice starts at 7.30.

00:38:57.288 --> 00:39:03.126
That means when I walk in at 6.30, you should be in your warm-up gear and you should be doing a dynamic stretch.

00:39:03.126 --> 00:39:06.570
You should be doing some mental fitness stuff.

00:39:06.570 --> 00:39:09.050
You should be doing, you know, getting new players.

00:39:09.059 --> 00:39:09.750
You should be ready.

00:39:09.750 --> 00:39:11.364
You should be ready to go.

00:39:12.081 --> 00:39:14.967
You should be getting ready, like I, you know.

00:39:15.340 --> 00:39:17.507
Let me tell you something I hate as a coach.

00:39:17.507 --> 00:39:21.364
I mean, I really despise this, all right, and I'm gonna give a little caveat.

00:39:21.364 --> 00:39:36.728
You know, if the practice is at four and you're coming from school, I understand sometimes you get there as early as you possibly can, but I cannot stand it when a player or a parent is getting a player dressed when the coach is speaking.

00:39:36.728 --> 00:39:41.005
If that's not the case, it's just you showed up late and you didn't feel like getting dressed.

00:39:41.400 --> 00:39:43.548
Well, but it's also the culture of allowing that to happen.

00:39:43.699 --> 00:39:44.733
Like you, can't stand it.

00:39:45.179 --> 00:39:54.268
Like, if you're gonna listen, if parent because this happens all the time my kid can't make it to this practice, but he'll be at the game, Don't worry about it, I don't give a crap about the game, I need you here.

00:39:54.268 --> 00:39:57.545
Like this is like you want me to, okay, then you're wondering why you're not on the power play.

00:39:58.083 --> 00:40:03.865
You haven't been practicing today we're talking about practice, not a game, not the game that we die for.

00:40:05.344 --> 00:40:07.784
Well, the bottom line is we're talking about routines.

00:40:07.784 --> 00:40:08.445
I get it.

00:40:08.445 --> 00:40:13.806
So, parents, if you ever, if there's a routine for a game, it's the same that we talked about, like the sticks, right?

00:40:13.806 --> 00:40:18.090
If the routine is, if you have a game stick, it's your practice stick.

00:40:18.090 --> 00:40:19.626
Your practice stick is your game stick, your game stick.

00:40:19.626 --> 00:40:20.875
You don't have kids go.

00:40:20.875 --> 00:40:21.260
You know what?

00:40:21.260 --> 00:40:30.608
I don't want to ruin this helmet, so I'm gonna wear this other helmet and practice, and then the game day I'm gonna put on this helmet, like it's just prepare to play the game.

00:40:30.608 --> 00:40:32.472
Who's it at Herm Edwards?

00:40:32.472 --> 00:40:43.985
So just come in, be ready, practice game, start mimicking those same things getting ready, getting mentally ready, taping your stick, talking to your teammates, being in the locker room.

00:40:43.985 --> 00:40:45.222
Go on the ice.

00:40:45.222 --> 00:40:53.684
You're warmed up, you're sweat, like I asked my kids all the time like how are you not getting a little sweat in before you jump on the ice?

00:40:53.684 --> 00:40:55.927
I'm not stretching you out, you should have that gleam.

00:40:56.755 --> 00:40:59.668
I called, the sprinkler was on, you know.

00:41:00.079 --> 00:41:04.088
Kids showing up, kids showing up to practice and flip flops, and I'm like gosh.

00:41:04.369 --> 00:41:06.664
It's annoying, we're starting to sound like old people, but it's true.

00:41:06.664 --> 00:41:08.329
All right, it's not old people.

00:41:09.643 --> 00:41:12.664
It's the BS of saying you're on a real problem when you're really not.

00:41:13.199 --> 00:41:14.726
Yeah, no, it's true, mike.

00:41:14.726 --> 00:41:16.306
Joking aside, here's the deal.

00:41:16.306 --> 00:41:17.664
It's that statement.

00:41:17.664 --> 00:41:21.541
Like you said, if you're failing to plan, you're planning to fail, all right.

00:41:21.541 --> 00:41:26.005
So listen, if we've done episodes in the past, we've talked in the past about that.

00:41:26.005 --> 00:41:28.347
It's an all the time thing, right?

00:41:28.347 --> 00:41:33.083
If you really want to excel at something and be great at something, you got to be great all the time at all the things.

00:41:33.083 --> 00:41:37.346
And taking out the garbage, getting undyed, getting dressed and look, crap happens.

00:41:37.346 --> 00:41:38.684
Like we're not.

00:41:38.684 --> 00:41:40.340
Mike and I are not ignoring that.

00:41:40.340 --> 00:41:41.045
Things happen.

00:41:41.045 --> 00:41:44.164
Traffic jams, all right, but kids have bad days.

00:41:44.164 --> 00:41:46.487
It's just, it's the routine of it.

00:41:46.487 --> 00:41:47.764
Is it happening all the time?

00:41:47.764 --> 00:41:52.485
If you're not showing up prepared to practice, how can you be prepared for a game?

00:41:52.485 --> 00:41:57.684
And again, I tell my athletes this all the time, at every level, that well, I don't have to do it at the highest, highest levels.

00:41:57.684 --> 00:42:07.844
But you know, there's just no way you're going to show up to a game and just be great all the time, unless you have a gift from God, and even then you're wasting it.

00:42:07.844 --> 00:42:12.746
Right, it's like the prep for the game starts so far beyond the game.

00:42:12.746 --> 00:42:20.630
And I say this too your practices, especially at the youth level, they should be harder than the games, which will make the games easy.

00:42:20.630 --> 00:42:25.387
The games are all muscle memory and creativity and putting it into play right.

00:42:25.387 --> 00:42:28.382
And again, there's a lot of teaching in games, don't get me wrong.

00:42:28.382 --> 00:42:32.063
Okay, but the practice, like that's the rub right, that's where you learn.

00:42:33.342 --> 00:42:37.463
But I think that's how bad the culture is that a parent would look and say, eh, it's practice.

00:42:37.463 --> 00:42:41.507
Oh, come on, you know we're not going to get there, Like it's not important.

00:42:41.507 --> 00:42:46.125
Now, if your practices maybe your practices are that bad that it isn't important, Listen, my practices aren't bad.

00:42:46.125 --> 00:42:52.427
You miss my practice, you're literally missing a master class in hockey and if you want to miss that, that's going to affect you.

00:42:52.427 --> 00:43:03.440
Now, if you're a player that doesn't need the practice at the early levels, at these might score PV levels then you're just either an exceptional athlete or you're playing with a bunch of crappy kids Like.

00:43:03.440 --> 00:43:16.329
The fact is, you're just not playing at a really good level If you're not coming to practice every day and having the routine packing your bag, being mentally ready, having your sticks being prepared, hydrating, hydrating all week.

00:43:16.329 --> 00:43:24.268
Like if you're not hydrating on Monday, wednesday and Friday practice and expect to play well in a game because you're going to drink a gallon of water on Saturday morning, you're not hydrated.

00:43:24.268 --> 00:43:41.847
Like it's something that starts like the hydra being ready for next week's event starts when the event on Sunday ends and then, whatever your rest is, whatever your daily routine is, get your schoolwork done, doing your timing, figuring out your calendar for the week, figuring out where I got to be when I got to be there.

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Now, if you're saying to me and you come back and say, oh my God, mike, this is way too much, I never did this as a kid, well then don't do it Like.

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This is just the reality of the world we're living in.

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Like, if you don't want to put the effort in to be a AAA player or be in a sport that demands these things, then don't be in the sport, just don't do it.

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But if you're acting like you're in a AAA team but you don't do all these things, you're not a AAA hockey player.

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If you're a kid carrying your bag into the rink or wheeling your bag into the rink and the nanny is bringing your sticks in for you, you're not a AAA hockey player, just aren't.

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So just forget it.

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We're talking about routines here.

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We're talking about when can you get those routines?

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If you're going to be spending time and money and effort at seven or eight, then that's the time your kid should be ready Absolutely.

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If you're doing those things Now, if you're playing rec hockey and show up on a Saturday and play Mike.

00:44:35.083 --> 00:44:36.420
That's just a great point you made, though Sorry.

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That's a great point.

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Yeah, and that's what you get, and you don't get upset.

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If you're going to be playing at a quote unquote elite level, you should have elite routines.

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That's just a really good point you made.

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Somehow there is a might AAA level, which I don't agree with at all.

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I just saw a 2014 champion.

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I'm like we're celebrating this Now again, I don't begrudge the people that get it and get the money.

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I'm like, hey, this is something that's going to get the money.

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Suck the money out of people.

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But if you're telling me that you're a AAA player at nine, then have a AAA routine.

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Yeah, I think that's another way of looking at this.

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Is that, if we're going to buy into these systems of AAAA and everything, maybe something coincides with that.

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Now, with that said, I think that, rounding this episode out, aside from the hockey culture, right, toxic or not toxic, these are all life lessons and it behooves you to teach your kid these life lessons.

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All right, like this is new.

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It helps you.

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It helps you.

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Yeah, like you're teaching them accountability.

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And again, there is a massive shortage of accountability right now in this country and in the world, and I think we all, as parents, you know, play a part in making sure that the next generation is a little more accountable here.

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Okay, so again, use the word accountability.

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Son, daughter, Do you know what accountability is?

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All right, you are accountable for your gear, your routine.

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If you're not accountable, you'll give me money because I'm not paying for anymore, right?

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But the life lesson of teaching them how to do this and parents listen it's frustrating.

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It's frustrating.

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They're going to disappoint you.

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I don't, there's no way around that.

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And I think that's where the question kind of comes from Is, like, when are I supposed to start this?

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You start it right away.

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You start it with, like anything else, right, when your kid was walking.

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We always use this analogy, right?

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You don't yell at your kid when they're calling to walk.

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You understand it's going to take time and you're encouraging and you're like come on, you can do it.

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There's a lot of things like that, right, I think we can do that with this too.

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Hey, there's a lot of time to learn how to get dressed.

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Learn your equipment first make sure they understand the equipment.

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Can't expect them to know what to put in their bag if they don't know the equipment.

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This is Adams and mites All right, make it fun, don't make it a job.

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I mean, you're supposed to love going to the rink, right?

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So if you're going to make it like a, if you're going to be beaten down.

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I could have done a better job with that.

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I did not do a great job with that.

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I did not make it fun.

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I should have made it fun.

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Me either.

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Other kids had fun because I was.

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I had a lot more fun teaching the other kids that weren't my kids, but like you know, but in my kids, like, get your goddamn bags and get in the car right now.

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If you've forgotten anything, I'm going to kill you Like I'm going to lose my mind.

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Everyone listening should learn from our example, Mike.

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Yeah, just, but I think it is, it is listening because we all go.

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But again, it all depends.

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You have five kids, you have two kids, you have one kid.

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You have a goalie, you have a forward.

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Do you have a full-time player, a part-time player, like?

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All these kinds of things come into play.

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But at the end of the day, for everyone's sanity, knowing that there's a place for everything, that there's a routine to put it on and off, knowing you're missing, knowing you have no tape left, like don't find out when you go to the rink you have no tape left, say, oh, there's no tape in my Howie's hockey bag.

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Okay, it's Monday, I have till Wednesday to get you some tape.

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Skate sharpening.

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Skate sharpening, all those kinds of things.

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Those are the kind of things that you always want to prepare for prior to going to the event you're going to.

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Right, right, I agree with you.

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Well, listen, that was a great episode.

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I hope we answered your question, meg.

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I want to let everybody else listening to this know we are all about you submitting things like this.

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You can always email us at team at ourkidsplayahockeycom, or you can just head us up on Facebook.

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You know, mike and I are in our Facebook group all the time.

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There's a lot of different ways to get a voice message over which we actually really, really appreciate because we can play them on the episode.

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It gives it a little more humanity than just us talking about it all the time.

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But again, you can email us to at team at ourkidsplayahockeycom.

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Submit your questions.

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We love answering.

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It's a great one for Meg today and Mike.

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Yeah, I want to thank all the listeners here for listening to this good, lively discussion today.

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Hope we gave you some actionable items and kind of really put our foot down a little bit as coaches and parents of hey, do this, don't do this, learn from us and move forward.

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As always, I think I gave myself some actual volume, so it's a two.

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Well, again, we've said it before, this show is therapy for us.

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We learned just as much as we give out.

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I got to remember the checklist again.

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Yeah, have them do it.

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That's my advice, have your kids do it.

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