You Are More Than Just a Hockey Player

On this episode of Ride to the Rink, Lee Elias sits down with two powerhouse PWHL athletes—Olympian Taylor Heise and veteran forward Hayley Scamurra—to talk about something every young player (and parent) needs to hear: Your identity is bigger than hockey.

If you're listening to Our Kids Play Hockey, chances are you or your child loves the game. Maybe you're on the way to a practice or tournament right now. But as Lee, Taylor, and Hayley share in this quick but powerful conversation, there's something even more important than how many goals you score or minutes you log on the ice:

Who Are You Beyond the Game?

Taylor Heise gets real about this. Despite being one of the top players in the world, she reminds us that hockey is what she does, not who she is. Off the ice, she's a sister, a baker, a puzzle fan, an aspiring pickleball player, and someone who just loves learning new things.

"When you take hockey away, who are you?" - Taylor Heise

She emphasizes that developing passions outside of hockey actually makes her better at the game—and a more well-rounded person.

Hayley Scamurra echoes that sentiment. She talks about the joy she finds in puzzles, family time, exploring coffee shops, and simply being present. She shares that it took time (and maturity) to realize that being a daughter, aunt, and friend are just as important as being an elite athlete.

Why This Matters for Kids (and Parents)

Lee offers a vital reminder: Hockey is amazing, but if it's the only thing you care about, burnout or identity loss becomes a real risk. The message is clear:

• You can be obsessed with hockey and still be more than a hockey player.

• Hobbies, family, and new experiences bring joy and perspective.

• Your value as a person isn’t measured in goals, saves, or ice time.

And for parents? You play a major role in this. Your words and actions shape how your child sees themselves—not just as athletes, but as people.

Advice for Hockey Parents

Taylor offers this perspective: Your child doesn't have to be the best on the team. But they should know you support them regardless of performance. One of her favorite stories involves a teammate whose dad would only take her to the rink if she said she was excited to go.

"Set the expectation that you'll love them no matter what."

Simple messages like:

• "I love watching you play."

• "I love you no matter what."

• "Give it your best today."

...can be life-changing for young players.

Hayley adds that even small, positive comments can stick with kids forever. The way parents talk about the game shapes how children feel about themselves.

Final Takeaway: Hockey is a huge part of your life. But it's not your whole life. Let it inspire you, challenge you, and bring you joy—but don’t let it define you.

Parents: Your child will remember how you made them feel more than any game result. Choose your words wisely.

Kids: You are a hockey player—but you're also a student, a friend, a sibling, an artist, a dreamer. Never stop exploring who you are.

🎧 Catch the full episode of Ride to the Rink with Taylor Heise and Hayley Scamurra wherever you listen to podcasts. And don’t forget to share your questions with us—we love hearing from our hockey families!

We believe in you. You should too.