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Hello hockey friends and families around the world, and welcome to another episode of Our Kids Play Goalie, powered by NHL Sensorena.
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I'm Lee Elias with Mike Benelli.
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Our guest today is the goaltending coach for Boston University and has an amazing resume that includes coaching with the Boston Bruins, arizona Coyotes and Toronto Maple Leafs.
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Along with his 1,000 goalies annually, which has resulted in over 25 NHL draft picks, and also through his work with Sens Arena as the director of goaltending development, he has authored two top-selling books Hockey Goaltending and how to Be a Goalie Parent.
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But you may ultimately recognize his name because his son, joey Decord, is the starting goaltender for the Seattle Kraken.
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His kid plays hockey.
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Ladies and gentlemen, please join me in welcoming Brian Decord to the show today.
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Brian, welcome to Our Kids Play Hockey.
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Thanks so much.
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And recently I have become Joey Decord's dad.
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He is no longer my kid.
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There you go I think that that's the dream of a lot of the parents on the show here today.
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Just wonderful to see Joey flourish in the NHL, especially last season, and obviously not that it was his coming of age year.
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But the winter classic last year stands out for me obviously is one of the big times that he played.
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But we're going to get to him and you as a dad.
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But I want to start with you.
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You know every goaltender has a story about how they were placed between the pipes.
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Were you voluntold?
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Did you naturally flock to that position?
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How did you get so involved in the goaltending realm?
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Well, I'm going to age myself a little bit.
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I grew up in Montreal and we had a channel 22 and they used to show the Bruins matinee games on Sundays.
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I fell in love with Jerry Chevers and his mask and then once again dating myself.
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Our rink was outside so we played outdoors and my brother was a goalie and finally he got tired of freezing his butt off and so we had a set of equipment right there and I begged my dad to let me play and he let me play.
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And I grew up in Montreal there and I played junior.
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I came to the States, I played at Merrimack College and went over.
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I played seven years in Switzerland in the National A League.
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There Came back goalie coach of the Bruins, goalie scout for Maple Leafs, director of goaltending for the Coyotes and running stop at goaltending as well.
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So that's kind of how I got to this point and we like to say my wife and I, daniela, we like to say we breed goaltenders.
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We have two ourselves and Alex just finished playing recently at St Aslan College at the Division III level.
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That's amazing and again it's ingrained in the family.
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When you said Cheevers, you're talking about the mask with the stitches and stuff like that.
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So for the younger parents in the audience, look up Gary Cheever's mask, all right, because or don't, or don't, or don't.
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Or don't, but really, really creative mask with a lot of stitches on it.
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Well, I freaked the kids out when I showed them pictures of when I was playing for the kid because I had a mask on.
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I had the Jacques Pont mask.
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There was no eye protection.
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I with a kid, because I had a mask on, I had the Jacques Pond mask, there was no eye protection.
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I mean, there were two holes out and if you were going to get hit with a stick, you were going to get hit with a stick.
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And you know it was interesting.
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When I finished playing right near the end of my career, I had a very short period.
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I had a coach by the name of Marco Barron and he had played for the Bruins and happened to be in Switzerland, came out and helped us a little bit, and just in the few times that he helped I learned so much and I had these great coaches that would really help me.
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But at that time, like your goalie coach, you'd see him once a month or something.
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There wasn't that consistent support.
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So when I was done, my goal was to formalize a way to train goaltenders.
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I felt like I could have used so much more as a goaltender myself, and then so I'm always thinking about what can I provide?
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Goalies, and that's where we get into the Stop it Goaltending U app and the SIG Game Day app that does evaluations for goaltenders, and the books.
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I've written five books now, so I just keep on trying to provide resources for our goaltenders and help them.
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And you know, you talk about Joey and you get in the books and we're flying back from Joey's first game.
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He played his first game in the NHL and we're flying back from the game and he played his first game in the NHL and we're flying back from the game.
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And I looked at Danielle and I said I go.
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Do you know how many decisions I'm getting chill saying this right now?
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Do you know how many decisions we had to get right to get to this point?
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And I said I eat, sleep and breathe goaltending.
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I am as deep in the goaltending world as anybody.
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Breathe goaltending I am as deep in the goaltending world as anybody.
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And it was still hard and all the pressure of camps and teams and tournaments and tryouts and where to go and junior and stay in preps, all the decisions.
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And that's why I wrote how to Be a Goalie Parent, because I wanted to help parents navigate through all those decisions and those issues that come up as a goalie parent and that's, that's, uh, it's a, it's an amazing book.
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I actually sell two or three a day.
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It just keeps on going and, um, and, and that's why, uh, I do what I do.
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I just try to give back and try to provide coaches, parents, um, and the goalies, the resources to help them.
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It's funny, brian, right, I'm sure, like when you're writing it too, it's helping you and your family, right, when you're we find out on this show like we'll be doing a podcast and I'll get off on a Monday and I'll sit there and be like, oh geez, I gotta actually reflect on that and redo that, or I need to fix that or tweak that in my own life as a hockey parent.
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So I think it's a great way to almost journal your own experience to help other people.
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But it's really helping you too and I'm sure your kids have appreciated that, because you can reflect on, kind of where you're at in the moment and then pivot and try to make the right decisions.
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And I think that for you to say that, think about all these parents.
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I just did a couple of Pee Wee Quebec tryouts over the past couple of weekends in various areas and watching the goalie parents and the pacing and the uncertainty and then at the end of the day it's like, listen, you're all good.
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I mean, you're all good, every one of them is good and you're just like it's just.
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You know it's chance and it's and it's timing and it's opportunity being in the right place at the right time.
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It's not only about you know talent right.
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Without a doubt, and and we're, we're always growing, we're, we're growing as coaches, we're growing as parents as well.
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You know, and and it was funny I did after the winter classic, I did an interview on the NHL network with Joey and it was like it was a magical moment the whole.
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It was like being in a Disney world movie, right, it was.
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It was insane.
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And we're, we're doing the interview and and, and that's what I talked about.
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I talked about, you know, as a parent.
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Sure, there's a financial aspect to having your kids play hockey, but we can live with the fact.
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Hey, maybe we did a tournament and we shouldn't have, and we spent the $300, and so on and so forth.
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But you know, what really drives the parents is making the right decisions and giving our kids a chance to do what they love to do, and that's what we're trying to do as parents all the time.
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And so you're always.
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The landscape keeps on changing in hockey, so you're always learning and you're always growing.
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You know, brian, we say a lot on this show that there is no one path for any professional, anything really, not just hockey.
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You've mentioned a few times the decision-making aspect of this.
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And look, my son's a young goaltender.
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He's 10 years old.
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I've fallen in the world of.
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I will be buying your book, but the question I have is maybe you can run through some of those decisions that you've had to make as a family for the audience just to give an idea, and kind of with the disclaimer again, these are decisions your family had to make.
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It might not be decisions every family has to make sure.
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So I I have a pretty strong opinion about development.
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And let's go back a little bit.
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My son, joy, was really fortunate.
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He played as a youth.
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He played club hockey, select hockey, as a goalie and he played for his town as a player.
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And he played as a player for the town right through middle school.
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So right up until freshman year of high school he was playing both and he always had a goalie partner.
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He was never the one goalie and you can argue there's a lot of good things about being the only goalie, but there's also a lot of good things about having a goalie partner and splitting the games.
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So that was kind of his thing.
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And when it comes to decisions you're always forced.
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Whether it's 10 years old, 11 years old, 12 years old, you're always forced with the decision of where to play, what team to try out for, and so on and so forth.
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And I've always had a motto I've always chosen environment over level and that's kind of my go-to.
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And Joey played up one year.
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That was probably his least fun year.
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He was playing with all the kids.
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It was a different locker room dynamic.
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He wasn't ready socially to be in that locker room.
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He was the youngest kid in the room and he didn't have as much fun.
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And goaltending, especially at the youngest levels, it's about driving passion for the game.
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It's hard, it's hard to move up the ranks, it's hard to play for a high school team, a prep school team, where everybody's counting on you and if you play bad you feel like you let everybody down or you got embarrassed.
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You know there's a lot of resiliency that has to go with goaltending.
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You absolutely positively have to develop that passion while you're younger.
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Because when it hits, when Stuart Skinner goes on that bad streak to start the season, that takes resiliency to climb yourself out of that bad streak to start the season, that takes resiliency to climb yourself out of that.
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When he gets benched in the playoffs for two games.
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You need so.
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If you don't have that passion and you don't have that love that you developed as a kid, you're done.
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So let's go back to environment over level.
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I love that statement.
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Joey Decord, in our area we're in New england, boston, and the best league is the ehf.
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That's where the best players play.
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Joey de corde has one ehf game played.
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He never played ehf.
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He played that next level down and once again, but it was a good team.
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He saw lots of shots, it was a great environment.
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He loved the game.
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He kept on getting better.
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You don't have to as a goaltender, you don't have to play at the highest level, but you have to be at a competitive level.
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So you can't just, you know, play at the lowest level and think that one day you're going to get there.
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You have to be challenged, you have to be in a competitive environment, you have to play, and it's not about playing on the best team in the best league, it's about getting experience, getting shots and being in the right environment.
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So he goes right through youth hockey and then it comes in the end of the youth hockey stage and it's oh, what are you going to do here?
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You want to be a player or goalie.
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And um, we had, we had this discussion and he said I really love playing forward, but I really think I'm good at goalie and if I want to make it to the nhl, I want to be a goal, I'm going to be a goalie.
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So that was kind of like the turning point yeah, not at eight.
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By the way, right, brian Brian, this is an eight-years-old.
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This is 14-years-old.
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He was still doing both.
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He was still doing both.
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Right, I mean, it's amazing.
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And obviously he played at the select level as a goalie, played at a higher level as a goalie, right?
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So then it was okay, ninth grade, what do you do?
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Well, well, here, prep school is the big thing, right?
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You know, play prep school.
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Now you're getting more into the academies and the clubs are getting better and better at the 14U and 16U and so on and so forth.
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But at that time it was really about going to prep school and Joey played two years of public high school hockey at the Division II level for North Andover High School.
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And so when he went to Cushing Academy after North Andover and that was, you know, it was when I talked to the coach it was like, okay, he's going to stay here until he's ready to leave at the high school level, we'll, we'll work on that mutually.
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So it was a mutual understanding.
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And then, when it came down to, okay, he had done really well and he went to prep school and in prep school he repeated his sophomore year, okay.
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So he reclassed when he played his first game at Cushing Academy, which is a powerhouse the highest level he had ever played when he played his first game at Cushing Academy.
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He, as a sophomore, he had 48 games played at the high school level before he played his first game at prep school.
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That's putting someone in a position to succeed.
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And I tell goalie parents this all the time Take the stairs, don't take the elevator.
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You take the elevator, you go up too fast, you're going to miss all these experiences and all this development.
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Just stay at a good competitive level, just keep getting better and then and they'll come.
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So.
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So he did the prep school and he was there for his sophomore year and junior year and he was, uh, ranked 14th for the nhl draft, wow.
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And he didn't get drafted.
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So he, he was not drafted his first year of the draft and that's quite something.
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So he doesn't get drafted.
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And then he goes out to mass player development to see who's going to get selected for USA Hockey.
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He gets to the final two.
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He doesn't get selected, he doesn't make it.
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So now, 14th round pick doesn't get picked.
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14th round ranked for the draft doesn't get picked for.
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The goalies Doesn't get selected for the USA Hockey Development Camp.
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Okay, oh, career's over right.
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Everybody thinks you have to have these things.
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You have to have these things.
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But they were tremendous experiences because he got through them and we have a saying every time something rough happens and he faces resiliency, he looks at his hand and goes hey, dad, more calluses, more calluses on these hands.
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And the point is that the more you go through, the tougher you get, the more that you can get through.
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So it was really funny.
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I'll tell you this story.
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So he had gone his two years at Cushing and he had, you know, going into senior year.
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But you have all the junior teams that are saying hey, go junior, you know you got to move past prep school, you weren't drafted, all this kind of stuff.
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And then it was the big decision Do you go junior or do you go back to prep school?
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Back to prep school.
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And for us it was really funny because we had one of the people at Cushing and they had talked to Joey about coming back and they were like hey, you know, you should play for this split season team at the beginning of the year.
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And this is what you do at prep school.
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You play for a split season team before you play the prep school season and you shouldn't play soccer now joey was the captain of the soccer team, captain of the tennis team, captain of the soccer team, captain of the hockey team, so he was a tri-captain and, um, they, they were pushing hard for him not to play soccer and eventually this was a funny phone call eventually Eventually, I said you know what, you're right, he should just focus on hockey, that next year I'm going to send him out to Minnesota to play for the wilderness in the Null.
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And they were like whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
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You've made my choice.
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You're making me make my choice, thank you.
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Wait a minute, no, no, wait, wait a minute.
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No, no, he can.
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No, he can play soccer, he can come back.
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So it was funny.
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He had no scholarships, he had nothing.
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And he went back for his senior year and he ended up ranked 10th.
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He got a full scholarship to arizona state university and, uh, he was drafted in the seventh round of the united children.
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Wow, you know.
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But but hey, could you imagine as a parent that decision?
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You got so many people, you got to go junior, you got to go junior and you've got the people at the school saying, well, you got to give up soccer.
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You know, you got to give up all these things coming at you and then you just got to make a decision Once again environment.
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He loved playing soccer, he loved the school.
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It was a great fit and it was like, hey, you know what?
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You didn't get it done last year.
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You're 14th, you didn't get a scholarship, go back, go get it, go earn it Right at the level Master, the level that you're at, and then we'll worry about moving on after that.
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Yeah, and I think I think goaltenders to you know have, you know, not that it's at that, it's an advantage, disadvantage, it's just a different you know piece of where you are in development.
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Because I think the environment I just was listening to like hockey prospects radio over the weekend and you know there's highly touted goaltender coming in that nobody's really seen on the radar because he has like a 7.3 goals against average or something like that but he's playing on the worst team in the league.
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He's saved, he's got like 56 shots on net.
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You know he's just in a great but he's in a great environment like he's, like you know, sound goaltender, has all the you know the mental.
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I mean, think about this kid, he's, he keeps going in the net, right, he's not quitting.
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So I I think it's just about that.
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Are you talking about Mikhail Egorov?
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Oh, I don't know.
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Yeah, maybe it's the Because he played on.
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arguably, one of the worst teams in the USHL was getting bombarded every night, but we actually committed him out of Omaha.
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But he's ranked number one on Central's list, so it could have been him.
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Because you're seeing him like you're.
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That's the, that's the eyeball test, right?
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It's not like that's a great.
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That's a great, it is a great example, because it's not about being on the best team and and he wasn't, you know the highly touted guy coming in and so on and so forth it it's about taking the stairs, it's about mastering the level that you're at before you move on.
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And you know, if you think about it, if you're, you're.
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People make mistakes when they're in a rush right.
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When you're in a rush to do something, or you're rushed to get out of the house, oh, you forgot something you were supposed to bring.
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So, if you think we're not going to rush, we're going to get what we need done at the level we're at and then we're going to move on.
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That's really the development path.
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Now for your coaches that are out there, I don't agree with that from a player standpoint.
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From a player standpoint, I think it's really important to play at the highest level you can.
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It's not a necessity for goaltenders and, of course, if you're a great goaltender playing a great league and a great team, fine, that's great.
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We're not saying don't play for that team.
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I'm not saying that at all.
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But if you're not, don't worry about it, you're fine, don't?
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worry about it, you're fine.
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Well, I think I think that's where the anxiety comes in, because a parent now has to deal with a kid and a coach and other parents, because the last line of defense is the fact that, okay, I'm, I'm letting my child go through this process and, yes, there's getting six goals against them.
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The team's losing.
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My son is getting better, he's getting better and better and better.
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But think you can just talk a little bit about how you would approach well, any level, but really the youth hockey level on a kid that plays on a lesser team is a better goalie is trying to take the stairs mentally.
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How do they talk themselves into being like listen, I am good, I am my job, I'm accomplishing what I need to accomplish as a goaltender.
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I can't do anything about the 6D in front of me and the 15 forwards.
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I can't score goals, I can't dump the puck out.
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Just talk a little bit about what a parent can do to kind of talk that player up and make sure they're staying in a good mental place to say, because it is a long listen to your journey.
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Your son's journey went from not even knowing he was going to be a goalie at 14 to playing in the NHL.
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And this year he was the nine-year overnight success.
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It drafted nine years ago, Right right, we knew it all the time.
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We knew it all the time overnight, overnight success.
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No, nine years of grinding it out from right.
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I think, I think at the youth loft and especially where we are right in new england and the northeast it's.
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It's even a bigger pressure cooker, I think, because there's, so you could.
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You could easily just hop and go across the street, go to another program and be happy so here's the first, here's the first thing I tell you, mike, the first thing I tell you is is to express gratitude for being in the situation where you are getting shot.
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So in the goalie world, this is what it comes down to.
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If you do your research and you analyze the goalies that make it, uh, and probability of goalies making it.
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If I said to you what's the most important stat in goaltending, some some people would go, oh, it's wins, goalie that wins, that's the most important stat.