Aug. 3, 2023

The Ride To The Rink - Success Leaves Clues

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"Success leaves clues," but are you noticing them?

This week, Mike & Lee take a look at the importance of human interaction, emotional awareness, and the power of putting your phone down. We're tackling the concept of seeking out connections with other players and coaches - not just for the growth of the team, but for individual personal development as well.

In the latter part of our episode, we dig deeper into making conscious choices to interact with peers, even those you might only meet briefly at a camp. We stress on the potential of these interactions to shape your future, both on and off the ice. We also navigate the importance of inclusivity in hockey, and the role of leadership in fostering a sense of belonging for everyone.

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Hello hockey skaters and goalies around the world, and welcome to another edition of the ride to the rink.

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I'm Leo Elias and I'm with Mike Benelli, and today we're going to talk about something.

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This is a little phrase I like to say success leaves clues.

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Success leaves clues if you put your phone down and look up for a minute.

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Now listen, this is going to be a funny topic today, but Mike and I wanted to go over this thing about when you go to hockey camps or new hockey places or find new people, the importance of kind of being emotionally aware of the people around you and not having your head buried in the phone.

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And we we've watched videos about this.

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We've seen people talk about this, mike, where we see coaches that, hey, when we're talking, phones down.

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When you're at dinner, phone down, because the relationships you can establish with other people will help you grow as a human being.

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Like I said, success leaves clues, but you have to be looking for those clues if you want to find them.

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Yeah, and I would, even it would even go further than just not having your phone, right, because I think back in the day you know we didn't have phones.

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Yeah, you'd have kids that would just go sit in the corner or they just set by themselves, or you know, you say, hey, who'd you meet a camp today?

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And like I don't know anybody really, like, I think I think you need to have a conscious choice to go into.

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You know, and right now I'm hearing it a lot, because you're seeing all the development camps and you're seeing all the these are NHL hockey players, like men going into a program being told, hey, you know what the best success you're going to have is later on after hockey.

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And how do you build that success?

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Well, you build it in this room, the people you're going to be in the room with and I would bring that right back down to you go to a power skating camp.

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You go to it's really the discussion really is around those week long hockey camps.

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If you're in a program like four or five days or a weekend camp or sleepaway camp, really try to think about what can I do?

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And the phone is a huge part of it, there's no doubt about it.

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I think it's an older.

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You know the directors and the people that run these programs.

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I think they probably zone in on the phone.

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You know more because they see every kid the table with their head down.

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But I think it's more about the conscious decision to say, if I can just put my phone down or put the other things that are outside of what I'm doing in the moment, right now, down, how can I broaden the cultural experience that I'm getting?

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And I think it has to just be.

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It can't just be about hockey.

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It's got to be talking to your teammate, talking to the person on the left, you speaking to golf centers, speaking to the defensemen forwards, finding out from other coaches what they like in players, what they don't like in players, and really any kid can have this.

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I've had this conversation with with eight year olds that asked me the greatest questions in the world and 16 year olds that will, that will really kind of dig in and dive in to, you know, getting something out of the camp other than hockey skill, and I think it's so important and I think, because of the phones and because of the the, the ability to go to a camp and play Xbox, you know, in your dorm room all night, is why this conversation comes up because we got to find ways to unplug and reconnect with the people that we're in the program with.

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And what better time to do it?

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In an environment where you know you're maybe not going to see any of these players ever again.

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You're only seeing him for a couple of days, a couple of hours.

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So get to know them, let them get to know you, make a great impression and then and then find ways to you know, just build your inner self and your own ability to pass this story Bye being a part of what everybody else is doing.

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Well, I know a lot of the kids are listening to this thing, but I play Xbox and call it duty to make friends and that's how I make friends.

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And look, it's true, you can communicate and have a lot of fun there, but the human to human interaction, especially in this team environment, it's a skill.

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It's a skill set that you need to learn.

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And, mike, you know it's funny, you remind us a good friend of ours, bryce Salvador, used to be captain of New Jersey Devils.

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I remember he told us one time about as he got older in the league and more established.

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One of the big changes from when he started was after practice, after games, a lot of the younger players would get their phones out and they would not interact.

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And he had to take it upon himself as a leader to make sure that that wasn't happening and saying listen, we're going to get together, we're going to spend time together as people and learn a lot about each other.

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And that team ended up, you know, going to the Stanley Cup final at one point.

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So those interactions and your ability to make friends or this is the other half of it if you see, as Mike said earlier, the kid in the corner right, or the kid who's by himself that you make it a part of your leadership to go up to that person, introduce yourself and start a conversation.

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You don't know how far that can go, kids, when you're listening to me right now, when you make the initiative to go and talk to somebody, that can really brighten someone's day, oh God, and how hard is that?

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right, that's so hard to do as a 15-year-old or a 10-year-old or a 16-year-old.

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It's so hard to see another kid and then you being vulnerable enough to go over and sit with that player.

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Or, you know, if you don't feel comfortable in that environment, seek them out at a later time of the day.

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When you're lying, you're on the bench like hey, you have to practice today.

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You want to eat with us?

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Or hey, you know we're having meal time or we're doing a snack time.

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Or hey, the guys at room 316 are having popcorn tonight.

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You want to come join us because we don't know where other kids are from.

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And it's so comforting like that, I think.

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As parents, we try to put our kids in like, oh, we're gonna go to this camp, who else is gonna be in the camp?

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Well, the hell, you know, because Doesn't matter.

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Yeah, other kids, we want our own comfort.

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Go in there, you're gonna meet friends, but then you gotta remember there's other kids that maybe can't do that.

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Go out, seek those players and kind of bring them into your circle.

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Right.

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We always talk about how great players make all the other players around them better.

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That's true off the ice too.

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A great leader will make everybody around them a better teammate.

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So, whether you're on either side of that aisle, make sure you take the initiative to interact this summer, interact during your camps or during the winter or during your season.

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Your ability to interact with another person face to face is a massive, massive skill set that you're gonna want to develop.

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When you're talking teammates, when you're talking to coaches, eventually you'll be talking to people interviewing you for a job.

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It's something you're gonna wanna do now.

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So fantastic topic, mike.

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And yeah, this has been another episode of the Ride to the Rink.

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If you have questions, topics or you wanna talk to Mike, myself or Christy about anything that we talked about, email us a team at ourkidsplayhockeycom.

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That's gonna do it for this edition.

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I'm Lee.

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That's Mike.

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Skate on and have a great week, everybody.

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I'll see you next time.