🏒 What does it really take to coach youth hockey the right way?
This week on Our Kids Play Hockey, Lee Elias, Mike Bonelli, and Christie Casciano-Burns sit down with Coach Tre Berg, a youth hockey coach, hockey dad, police officer, and longtime player who brings a true “in the trenches” perspective to the game.
Tre grew up playing hockey in the Syracuse area, played juniors and college hockey, and now coaches with the Syracuse Nationals and Syracuse Galaxy AAU program while also serving as the Mid-State MITE coordinator. He coaches players from A to AAA, runs skills clinics, works full-time as a police officer, and is raising hockey players of his own. In other words, he understands the reality many hockey families live every day.
In this episode, we dive into what parents often don’t see: the hours of preparation, the emotional investment, the pressure of tryouts, the financial realities of travel hockey, and the responsibility coaches have to create a culture where kids can develop, compete, and still love the game.
In this episode, we discuss:
🥅 What “fun” really means in youth hockey
It’s not just winning. It’s competing, learning, building friendships, being engaged, and creating memories that last.
🚨 Why coachability matters at every level
Tre explains why attention, effort, communication, and willingness to learn can matter just as much as raw skill.
💬 How coaches should communicate with parents
From preseason meetings to expectations around ice time and behavior, transparency can prevent major issues later.
💰 The rising cost of youth hockey
The group talks honestly about ice time, travel, fundraising, sponsorships, and the pressure families face.
🏒 The debate around 8U AAA and full-ice hockey
Tre, Lee, Mike, and Christie have a thoughtful conversation about development, puck touches, structure, and whether young players need that level of competition so early.
👏 Building culture beyond the scoreboard
Respect, accountability, discipline, cleaning up locker rooms, representing the logo, and becoming better humans all matter.
This episode is a must-listen for hockey parents, youth coaches, program leaders, and anyone who cares about keeping kids engaged in the game for the right reasons.
📖 Want a written version you can reference anytime? Check out our companion blog: https://www.ourkidsplayhockey.com/blog/what-youth-hockey-parents-need-to-know-about-coaching-culture-and-development/
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